Full Body Orgasm
For men, orgasm and ejaculation are generally thought to be synonymous. When you orgasm you ejaculate and all the energy of arousal instantly dissipates. Biochemically a change takes place within you - and it is no wonder that you feel tired at this time. This then leads to the female perspective that you roll over and start snoring!
Tantric (and toaist) wisdom teaches us that this does not need to be the case. That men too can experience multi-orgasmic lovemaking that lasts for hours.
The main block to this happening is not so much physical as mental - most men tend to be rather attached to the orgasms they have spent much of their life with as happy companions. And it can be hard to imagine that there could be something even better to experience.
Imagine for a moment your favourite food. If this was for a female audience I'd be confident to suggest chocolate but for you guys it could be sausage and mash, a roast dinner - I'll even let you include beer. Really experience how you feel when you eat (or drink) it.
Now imagine that there is something that is a hundred times more delicious, that makes you feel wonderful, not only while you're eating it but for days afterwards. Something that rather than being bad for your health (as so many of our most delicious treats can be) is hugely benficial.
The only thing is, to be able to enjoy this new treat, you have to give up your original favourite. Could you do it? Would you dare to try?
Orgasm can be like this. We have to change our habitual habits to experience something new.
You may have developed a pattern of tensing your body when you become aroused and learning to relax into those sensations will be new to you. Your breath may be very shallow generally and become rapid when aroused and learning to breathe deeply into your heart may be unfamiliar. You may have learned to make as little noise as possible (so as not to be discovered) and making sound can be a new experience. Unless you have explored any Eastern practices you are unlikely to have explored or worked with the subtle energies that run through the body, or even been aware of them.
And as we explore all of these new aspects in our sessions together you may find yourself experiencing a state of freedom and bliss that is different to anything you have ever felt before.
In working as a massage therapist for many years I was often told that I had Magic Hands. Over time, and particularly since exploring the world of tantra, I have come to believe that the magic is not in my hands, but in my heart. The difference in the quality of my touch comes from that level - the emotional rather than the physical. But more than that the magic is in your heart and my intention in working with you is to help you to connect with your own heart and have an experience of the magic it contains, physically, mentally and emotionally.
Tantric massage aims to move beyond mere sexual pleasure into the realms of bliss. It awakens the entire body - creating a sense of expansion and a connection to the life-force energy within us all. Throughout the massage you are honoured as a manifestation of the Divine and encouraged to access this fundamental part of your being. The state of deep peace and bliss that we can connect to is, I believe, our true nature and experiencing it directly during this time can help us to live more from this place within us.
With ancient roots in Indian spiritual practices, tantric massage works on the energetic anatomy of the body as much as the physical. It is designed to awaken an energy know as Kundalini which is said to live dormant at the base of the spine like a coiled snake. When released, this energy flows up pathways in and around the spine, activating energy centres known as chakras and can be transmuted into a spiritual form.
This energy can also be used by the body for healing of mental, emotional and physical ills - though this is not the main purpose of tantra. It is an enjoyable side effect though. The healing comes from within you and is not in anyway created or given to you by the therapist who is merely a catalyst in the process.
Both men and women in our culture often have many hang-ups and issues around our appearance and our sexuality. Whether that be a dislike of our body, a sense of shame around our desires or an unhealthy obsession with performance most of us have something. In its open accepting of the entire body and our natural sexuality, Tantra can help to counter these problems and bring us into healthier relationship with the entirety of ourselves. If you have specific issues in this area you may find that a session of Psychosexual Somatic Bodywork can help in a more profound way to assist you in clearing these.
The massage is generally performed on a futon mattress on the floor but can also be done on a massage table. Both you and I will be in an open, natural state nakedness. Before the treatment I will suggest that you establish a pattern of breathing deeply into your full lungs - coming back to this breath if you find you have lost it will enhance the process. I will encourage you to maintain your awareness in each present moment - really feeling the touch you are experiencing. I will encourage you to move with the energy and to make sound to create a greater release.
As with the naturist massage I encourage you not to touch me as this will bring you outside yourself. To take this time to be totally present to what you are feeling is an important part of the process. You may find that keeping your eyes closed allows you to connect more fully with the sensations in your body - or you may wish to make regular eye contact with me - to see and to be seen.
The session begins with an honouring ritual connecting us with ourselves, each other and the Divine.
Warm oils (scented or not as you prefer) are spread generously over your body and the whole of you is massaged, tenderly and with total attention. No part of the body is ignored - including the genitals which are caressed and honoured.
As you reach higher levels of bliss you may find yourself on an orgasmic plateau where the experience of orgasm and ejaculation are separated. Here you can bask in waves of bliss for many hours without the deflation that follows ejaculation. You may feel waves of energy flowing up your body and a sense of expansion beyond your physical confines. This can happen spontaneously in any session (even your first) and can be encouraged by working with breath and visualisation. If trying to achieve this creates a sensation of frustration for you it is acceptable to have a conventional orgasm but I encourage you to try for the deeper experience of full-body orgasm as this is where the magic is! Read here for more information.
As this is a deep process it takes time to achieve this state. This is not a simple massage with a 'happy ending' - let alone a 'rub and a tug' . It takes time to build this energy and so sessions are a minimum of 2 hours, though longer sessions are also available. Sessions cost £100 per hour.
